Emotional Vampires Dealing With People Who Drain You Dry Revised And Expanded 2nd Edition

Author: Albert Bernstein
Publisher: McGraw Hill Professional
ISBN: 0071790969
Size: 28.33 MB
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Protect yourself from people who take undue advantage and suck the energy out of your life Emotional Vampires will help you cope effectively with the people in your life that confound you, confuse you, and seem to sap every ounce of your energy. Bestselling author Dr. Al Bernstein shows you how to recognize each vampire type--antisocial, histrionic, narcissists, obsessive-compulsives, paranoids--and deal with them effectively. He uses many examples from the latest news headlines, which will help you distinguish between the types and deepen your understanding of each one. In response to the daily calls and emails he got about the previous edition of this book, Dr. Al Bernstein has added his advice for dealing with those emotional vampires who come in the shape of spouses and lovers, relatives, and children. Dr. Bernstein shows you how to deal with each vampire type and what you need to do to keep from getting drained.

Dinosaur Brains

Author: Albert J. Bernstein
Publisher: Ballantine Books
ISBN: 9780345410214
Size: 22.89 MB
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Discover how to cope with instinct, emotion, and irrationality--the dinosaur brain--that disrupts any business enivronment, with a step-by-step process that helps you reason your way through turf wars and power struggles, surly subordinates, temperamental bosses, and more.... "The key to thriving in the corporate jungle is understanding dinosaurs." TIME From the Paperback edition.

Attracting Terrific People

Author: Lillian Glass
Publisher: Macmillan
ISBN: 9780312180454
Size: 11.39 MB
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The author relates how to overcome shyness, eliminate boredom and depression, feel more comfortable about taking risks, and identify, attract, and keep the twelve kinds of terrific people she describes

Hysterical Personality Style And The Histrionic Personality Disorder

Author: Mardi Jon Horowitz
Publisher: Jason Aronson
ISBN: 9780876685464
Size: 79.76 MB
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This revised edition of the classic work on the hysterical personality begins with a new chapter, introducing the core characteristics of the hysterical personality disorder and providing a framework for the reader that changes and is enlarged in each successive chapter. The second chapter deals with the fundamental diagnostic and formulative issues. The third considers the development of the disorder in terms of childhood and adolescent antecedents. Basic treatment principles are presented in the fourth chapter, and the change process in reschematizing psychological treatment is addressed in the fifth. This last chapter presents a case in detail, indicating development of schemas of self and others; showing how core aspects of personality may change as a consequence of new forms of relationships and new uses of conscious thought.

Am I The Only Sane One Working Here 101 Solutions For Surviving Office Insanity

Author: Albert Bernstein
Publisher: McGraw Hill Professional
ISBN: 9780071608732
Size: 58.77 MB
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". . . the most comprehensive guide I have ever read for solving any conceivable trying scenario!" --Julie Jansen, bestselling author of You Want Me to Work with Who? and I Don't Know What I Want, but I Know It's Not This You can't stop office madness, but you can stop the madness from getting to you. Gossipy coworkers, unmanageable managers, and cranky clients have got you pulling your hair out and gnawing your nails down to nubs. From teammates who drop the ball on deadlines to corporate bullies who try to run your show, your work environment can be lethal to your health and your career. Change Your Reaction, Not Their Actions When things get crazy, you may not be able to control how others behave, but you can change how you respond. Al Bernstein shows you how understand the situation, how to keep the craziness from bothering you, how to keep things from getting worse, and how you can make them better. Problems/solutions discussed inside: Coworkers who don't like you? Feed them! Hidden agendas? Unleash the power of “cc:” mail! Unpleasant supervisors? Tell them only what they want to hear! Office gossip? Dish out positive gossip about other people! Lying coworkers? Buy into their lies and watch what happens! And ninety-five more!

It S Her Fault

Author: Bryan Craig
Publisher: AuthorHouse
ISBN: 1477254587
Size: 80.97 MB
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“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.” ? C.G. Jung “Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.” ? William James

Sacred Bull

Author: Albert J. Bernstein
Publisher: Wiley
Size: 41.15 MB
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There's a little bull in all of us . . . Sacred Bull shows how to recognize your own self-imposed "bull" and, most importantly, how to do something about it. Dr. Albert J. Bernstein and Sydney Craft Rozen's new book is a witty, perceptive, and effective guide to personal change in your work setting. "Tried but can't break the bonds of self-limiting career behavior? With this breakthrough advice, you'll find that change has wings."—Joyce Lain Kennedy Careers Columnist Los Angeles Times Syndicate "After thirty-five years in the world of business, this book made me recognize some of my own imperfections. No: Let's call them what they are: Sacred Bulls."—Roger Axtell Author of Do's and Taboos Around the World A Main Selection of the Newbridge Executive Program Did you ever notice how people at work "spin-doctor" themselves into believing things they wish were true but just aren't?—The perfectionist who micromanages everything. She never seems to make a mistake . . . unless you count the important market trends she always seems to miss. The complainer who always knows where to fix the blame but never how to fix the problem. The perpetually "nice" person. He thinks he avoids conflict by telling people what they want to hear. Too bad that avoiding a little conflict today paves the way for "the mother of all battles" tomorrow. It's easy to spot these problems in other people, but not in yourself. Are you letting your own bull mess up your job, your relationships with coworkers, and your opportunity for advancement? Sacred Bull is a perceptive and highly useful book that enables you to sort out fact from fiction about your behavior on the job. It covers ten sacred bulls that may be standing in your way unrecognized as problems (perhaps they even masquerade as virtues). DENIAL: If I ignore my problems, they'll go away. BLIND SPOTS AND SHORTCUTS: What I don't like can't be important. SELF-INTEREST: Always look out for Number One. MIND-READING: People should know what I want without my telling them. BLAME: If something goes wrong, it has to be somebody's fault. BE NICE: Avoid conflict at all cost. PERFECTION: If it's not perfect, it's nothing. FAIRNESS: I don't need to negotiate for what I want; I should get what's coming to me without asking. EXCUSES: There's always a good reason why I don't follow the rules everyone else works by. BEING RIGHT ALL THE TIME: There's a right way and a wrong way—my way is right. If the road to ruin is paved with good intentions, these Sacred Bulls hold the paving contract. Sacred Bull, in its witty and perceptive commentary—enables all of us to take a useful and refreshing look at ourselves. Reading this book is an investment that will pay you many dividends.

The Accidental Buddhist

Author: Dinty W. Moore
Publisher: Algonquin Books
ISBN: 1565128516
Size: 74.37 MB
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A journey through the diverse landscape of American Buddhism, written with “a blessedly down-to-earth sense of humor” (Rodger Kamenetz, author of The Jew in the Lotus). In an era when many of us yearn for an escape from a culture of noise and narcissism, this book takes us into the physical and spiritual geography of Buddhism, American-style: from a weekend at a mountain retreat for corporate executives learning effective ways to cope with stress, to a visit with a Zen teacher holding classes in an old Quaker farmhouse, to a meeting with a Catholic priest who’s also a Zen master. Both a lively introduction to this Eastern spiritual tradition and a colorful portrait of American society, The Accidental Buddhist “makes the oftentimes impenetrable concepts of Buddhism accessible to the reader and contains striking, and important, parallels and contrasts between [the author’s] own Catholic upbringing and ancient Buddhist traditions” (Library Journal). “A travelogue detailing the tremendous diversity within American Buddhism. His anecdotes make it clear that the umbrella term ‘Buddhist’ encompasses strict Zen monks, laid-back Tibetan politicos, and beatnik holdover Allen Ginsberg. In his travels, Moore attends weekend retreats, chronicles the Dalai Lama’s 1996 visit to Indiana, and grooves to Change Your Mind Day, a meditative Buddha-fest in New York City’s Central Park. . . . He finds that his family is his sangha (monastery), and while he still feels he is ‘probably a fairly lousy Buddhist,’ he will eclectically combine his various forms of new knowledge to find a path that makes sense to him. Now that may be an authentic American Buddhism.” —Kirkus Reviews

Toxic Friends

Author: Susan Shapiro Barash
Publisher: St. Martin's Press
ISBN: 9781429984027
Size: 76.22 MB
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A woman can always count on are her friends—right? But what if those friendships are hurtful, harmful, even toxic? Susan Shapiro Barash explores the ten types of female friends and shows you why and how women get stuck with the worst kinds, the ways to get "unstuck, and how to recognize a true friend." For example: • The Leader of the Pack—it's all on her terms • The Doormat—and why you're the one paying the price • The Misery Lover—she wants to feel your pain. Really. • The User—and why you seldom see her coming • The Trophy Friend—and what you gain from each other Provocative and fascinating, Susan Shapiro Barash looks at the bonds (and bondage) of female friendships in a new light.

Emotional Vampires At Work Dealing With Bosses And Coworkers Who Drain You Dry

Author: Albert Bernstein
Publisher: McGraw Hill Professional
ISBN: 0071790942
Size: 56.21 MB
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DO YOU WORK WITH VAMPIRES? LEARN HOW TO PROTECT YOURSELF! Banish the bloodsuckers from your professional life Whether it's a coworker, subordinate, or boss, there's at least one emotional vampire in every office. These people try your patience, sap your energy, and add an entirely unhealthy dynamic to workplace productivity. The bestselling author of Emotional Vampires and Dinosaur Brains shows you how to spot and deal effectively with these dysfunctional elements in the workplace: ANTISOCIALS, who crave excitement in all its forms, including aggression If your boss or a coworker is trying to push you around . . . Learn that the most important battle to fight with a bully is in your own mind. HISTRIONICS, who believe that what it looks like is more important than what it is If your boss thinks any problem can be solved with a motivational seminar . . . Learn how to get a manager wannabe to actually manage. NARCISSISTS, who believe that the universe revolves around them If your CEO makes Louis XVI look like Gandhi . . . Learn techniques that diplomats have used throughout history to teach infantile monarchs to act like grown-ups. OBSESSIVE-COMPULSIVES, who can't seem to see the forest for the trees If there is absolutely no task that your boss considers too small to micromanage . . . Learn to be a Control-Freak Whisperer by seeing your boss's fear rather than your own irritation. PARANOIDS, who think they've found the simple truths that explain everything If you work in a place where you can't get ahead unless you drink the Kool-Aid . . . Learn how to recognize a toxic belief system before it poisons you. VAMPIRE CULTURES: when vampires get promoted to positions of power, they remake organizations in their own image . . . Learn the 15 warning signs that tell you to get out before sunset. PRAISE FOR EMOTIONAL VAMPIRES: "We love so much about this book! A great complement to Dealing with People You Can't Stand, it goes beyond dealing with the merely difficult behavior to the truly pathological. Bernstein offers believable examples and useful descriptions. This is the book to recommend when the topic of truly horrible behavior comes up!" -- Dr. Rick Kirschner and Dr. Rick Brinkman, authors of the international bestseller Dealing with People You Can't Stand "This book equips individuals with the tools to identify and defend against a wide array of emotional vampires at work. It offers well-developed tactics for navigating the most difficult people in any organization." -- Katherine Crowley and Kathi Elster, bestselling authors of Working with You Is Killing Me and Mean Girls at Work "It's amazing how one manipulative, territorial, or otherwise self-serving boss or employee can make the lives of everyone around miserable. In Emotional Vampires at Work, Albert Bernstein offers concrete, step-by-step guidance to manage life around these misfits. You'll learn to take care of your and your valued colleagues' needs, while contributing your best to your organization—with maturity and sanity." -- Nancy Ancowitz, author of Self-Promotion for Introverts