Love Me Don T Leave Me

Author: Michelle Skeen
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 1608829545
Size: 23.19 MB
Format: PDF
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Everyone thrives on love, comfort, and the safety of family, friends, and community. But if you are denied these basic comforts early in life, whether through a lack of physical affection or emotional bonding, you may develop intense fears of abandonment that can last well into adulthood—fears so powerful that they can actually cause you to push people away. If you suffer from fears of abandonment, you may have underlying feelings of anger, shame, fear, anxiety, depression, and grief. These emotions are intense and painful, and when they surface they can lead to a number of negative behaviors, such as jealousy, clinging, and emotional blackmail. In Love Me, Don’t Leave Me, therapist Michelle Skeen combines acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), schema therapy, and dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT) to help you identify the root of your fears. In this book you’ll learn how schema coping behaviors—deeply entrenched and automatic behaviors rooted in childhood experiences and fears—can take over and cause you to inadvertently sabotage your relationships. By recognizing these coping behaviors and understanding their cause, you will not only gain powerful insights into your own mind, but also into the minds of those around you. If you are ready to break the self-fulfilling cycle of mistrust, clinginess, and heartbreak and start building lasting, trusting relationships, this book will be your guide.

Unf Ckology

Author: Amy Alkon
Publisher: St. Martin's Griffin
ISBN: 1466892684
Size: 13.83 MB
Format: PDF, Kindle
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Amy Alkon presents Unf*ckology, a “science-help” book that knocks the self-help genre on its unscientific ass. You can finally stop fear from being your boss and put an end to your lifelong social suckage. Have you spent your life shrinking from opportunities you were dying to seize but feel “that’s just who I am”? Well, screw that! You actually can change, and it doesn’t take exceptional intelligence or a therapist who’s looking forward to finally buying Aruba after decades of listening to you yammer on. Transforming yourself takes revolutionary science-help from Amy Alkon, who has spent the past 20 years translating cutting-edge behavioral science into highly practical advice in her award-winning syndicated column. In Unf*ckology, Alkon pulls together findings from neuroscience, behavioral science, evolutionary psychology, and clinical psychology. She explains everything in language you won’t need a psych prof on speed-dial to understand—and with the biting dark humor that made Good Manners for Nice People Who Sometimes Say F*ck such a great read. She debunks widely-accepted but scientifically unsupported notions about self-esteem, shame, willpower, and more and demonstrates that: - Thinking your way into changing (as so many therapists and self-help books advise) is the most inefficient way to go about it. - The mind is bigger than the brain, meaning that your body and your behavior are your gym for turning yourself into the new, confident you. - Fear is not just the problem; it’s also the solution. - By targeting your fears with behavior, you make changes in your brain that reshape your habitual ways of behaving and the emotions that go with them. Follow Amy Alkon's groundbreaking advice in Unf*ckology, and eventually, you’ll no longer need to act like the new you; you’ll become the new you. And how totally f*cking cool is that?

Perfectly Flawed

Author: Michelle Skeen
Publisher: Select Books (NY)
ISBN: 9781590793947
Size: 46.88 MB
Format: PDF, ePub, Mobi
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We have all had experiences in which we feel unworthy, insufficient, inadequate, defective, flawed, underserving, damaged, imperfect or lacking. These feelings may be more profound at work, a social setting, friendships, romantic relationships or with your family. In an effort to eliminate these feelings you may find yourself constantly seeking affirmation or approval from others. In the absence of that you are left feeling flawed. Or you may hold yourself back from pursuing what you really want because you fear failure. How do you stop feeling like you re not good enough? You might find yourself accommodating others in an effort to receive approval. How can you stop seeking affirmation from others? You may rely heavily on the opinion of others before you make a decision. How can you be solid in yourself when you make decisions? You may avoid situations in which you receive feedback about anything to do with you. How can you hear criticism without internalizing it as another message that you re not good enough? "Perfectly Flawed" will provide you with a way to understand your feelings and change your perception of yourself as well as the influence of others. First, you will look at the source of your suffering. Suffering cannot be alleviated until the source is identified. Understanding what started this cycle of negativity in the first step in eliminating it."

Overcoming Fears Of Intimacy And Commitment

Author: Herb Goldberg
Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield
ISBN: 1442266856
Size: 12.36 MB
Format: PDF, Mobi
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Romantic relationships can be difficult, but to browse the shelves for advice, readers are mostly introduced to the woman’s viewpoint and concerns. Seldom do books address the innermost thoughts, feelings, fears, and concerns of men in relationships. Through the use of in-depth psychological insights, noted author-psychologist Herb Goldberg, takes the reader through twelve phases of romantic relationships. From the initial excitement to the time when things fall apart, he explores the “gender undertow,” prescribes remedies, and describes the healthy relationship from both perspectives, offering tips and advice for both men and women. Taking his starting point from the perspective of men in relationships, Goldberg lays out the concerns many men have – from fears of intimacy to the recognition that one’s partner may not be perfect. Addressing the most common problems that may stem from these relationship troubles, he guides readers through the fears and troubles that may arise and offers cogent advice in an effort to bring men and women together in healthier and more intimate unions.


Size: 22.13 MB
Format: PDF, ePub, Docs
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Take Your Life Back

Author: Stephen Arterburn
Publisher: NavPress
ISBN: 1496418492
Size: 48.61 MB
Format: PDF, ePub, Mobi
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“I want to have better relationships . . . but is it all on me to fix things?” “This person’s approval means everything to me. It’s like it controls me.” “Why can’t I get free from this cycle?” If you find yourself having these feelings, it’s time to take your life back. Through personal examples, clinical insights, and spiritual truth, Stephen Arterburn and David Stoop will show you how toovercome the habits and history that are keeping you down—and take new, positive steps toward change;heal from the hurts, setbacks, and broken relationships that affect you every day;develop better boundaries with others in your life;stop overreacting and start responding appropriately to any situation or circumstance;break the cycle of behavior that harms you and your relationships;find the freedom you have longed for.Your past and current circumstances don’t have to define you, and they don’t have to determine the direction of your life. Take Your Life Back is the key to moving from reactive attitudes and behaviors to healthy, God-honoring responses that will help you live the life you were meant to live.