Mating In Captivity

Author: Esther Perel
Publisher: Hachette UK
ISBN: 1444717618
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When you love someone, how does it feel? And when you desire someone, how is it different? In Mating in Captivity, Esther Perel looks at the story of sex in committed couples. Modern romance promises it all - a lifetime of togetherness, intimacy and erotic desire. In reality, it's hard to want what you already have. Our quest for secure love conflicts with our pursuit of passion. And often, the very thing that got us to into our relationships - lust - is the one thing that goes missing from them. Determined to reconcile the erotic and the domestic, Perel explains why democracy is a passion killer in the bedroom. Argues for playfulness, distance, and uncertainty. And shows what it takes to bring lust home. Smart, sexy and explosively original, Mating in Captivity is the monogamist's essential bedside read.

The State Of Affairs

Author: Esther Perel
Publisher: Hachette UK
ISBN: 1473673569
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***NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER*** Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Why do people cheat? Can an affair ever help a marriage? Infidelity is the ultimate betrayal. But does it have to be? Relationship therapist Esther Perel examines why people cheat, and unpacks why affairs are so traumatic; because they threaten our emotional security. In infidelity, she sees something unexpected - an expression of longing and loss. A must-read for anyone who has ever cheated or been cheated on, or who simply wants a new framework for understanding relationships. 'Esther Perel does nothing short of strip us of our deepest biases, remind us of our purpose in connecting as lovers, and save relationships that might otherwise sink into the sea-all with even-handed wisdom, fresh morality, and wise prose. Thank heavens for this woman.' - Lena Dunham 'Beautiful. A brilliantly intelligent plea for complexity, understanding, and - as always - kindness.' - Alain de Botton 'She's the guru on relationships... she's the first person I ask for advice' - Cara Delevingne 'Wisest sex therapist we ever did meet. Her new book, THE STATE OF AFFAIRS, proposes a new perspective on infidelity' - GRAZIA 'This is a must-have for all married couples and has completely changed my thinking.' - SUNDAY TIMES STYLE

Analysis

Author: James Zimmerhoff
Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform
ISBN: 9781979145381
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The State Of Affairs Iconic couples' therapist and bestselling writer of Mating in Captivity Esther Perel returns with an intriguing look at relationships through the lens of adultery. An affair: it can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet, this pervasive human experience is so poorly understood. What are we to make of this time-honored taboo, unsuccessfully universally forbidden? Why do people cheat especially those in happy marriages? Why does an infidelity hurt so much? When we declare adultery, what exactly do we mean? Do our unrealistic expectations of marriage direct us to betrayal? Is there such a thing as an infidelity-proof marriage? Is it possible to love several people at once? Can an affair ever improve a marriage? Perel weaves real-life case accounts with intelligent psychological and cultural analysis in this compelling book. For the past ten years, Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of couples who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she writes, but it is possible to heal. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage with the same person. With the right strategy, couples can grow and learn from these disturbing experiences, together or apart. Infidelity, she argues, have a lot to teach us about modern relationships what we anticipate, what we think we desire, and what we feel like our right. They offer an unprecedented window into our individual and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and involvement. Through examining prohibited love from multiple angles, Perel invites us into an honest, enlightened, and entertaining examination of modern marriage in its many variations. Fiercely farsighted, The State of Affairs provides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. Perel notes, "Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart." Perel develops 2006's Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence with an exciting study of relations. In this book, she establishes the controversial opinion that infidelity is eventually beneficial to marital bonds, and she successfully explores the ways that infidelity force partners to carefully examine their positions about love, commitment, and sex. But do not misunderstand, Perel does not promote infidelity. She dismisses the frequently used excuse that adultery is due to sex obsession and argues that emotional dishonesty is still cheating. "how are we to know what constitutes an affair?." Perel sensibly makes the case that if the betrayal has already happened, it's imperative that the experience provides a way forward whether that is to stay married or to split up. She bolsters her arguments with real-life examples from both heterosexual and same-sex relationships. The publication is sure to spark intelligent discussions that will have readers everywhere examining their belief systems. This topic is a thought-provoking take on relationships and essential reading for couples dealing with the affair. Infidelity has a lot to teach us about relationships, what we expect, what we think and desire, and what we feel entitled to, records Perel "They offer an unprecedented window into our particular and cultural attitudes regarding love, lust, and commitment." Using research and individual stories from her 30 years as a couples' therapist. The writer dives into the world of affairs: why men and women engage in them, what many consider "innocent" behavior versus flat-out wrongdoing. When the offended part discovers the affair, the rage, jealousy, guilt, and host of other emotions that flare up, and the full healing process, which determines if a couple will remain together or not. Perel reviews each affair with an open attitude, trying to get to the reason of why it happened and how each involved can view the same situation in a different light.

A Happy Life In An Open Relationship

Author: Susan Wenzel
Publisher: Chronicle Books
ISBN: 1452178526
Size: 70.67 MB
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Discover the secrets to successful open relationships. A Happy Life in an Open Relationship is a handbook to healthy nonmonogamous relationships. For anyone curious about open relationships, here is a valuable handbook from an expert in love, sex, and communication. Relationship therapist Susan Wenzel—who is in an open marriage herself—delivers skillful advice on how to navigate the complex emotional landscape of multi-partner relationships, from polyamory to swinging. • Filled with of compelling personal stories, anecdotes from clients, and practical exercises • A guide to cultivating harmonious and fulfilling open relationships • Author Susan Wenzel is a sex and relationship therapist with years of experience counseling patients on issues related to monogamy, intimacy, and trust. A Happy Life in an Open Relationship will help you develop your trust and communication skills, explore sexuality and desire, build your confidence and self-worth, set healthy boundaries, overcome jealousy, and so much more. People interested in making changes in their relationships will appreciate the positive tone, helpful advice, and expert wisdom from an accomplished relationship therapist who has gone through the experience herself. • A great book for anyone interested in testing the boundaries of monogamy and exploring the world of polyamory • An accessible and inviting guide for couples to build an open relationship that is strong and lasting • Perfect for fans of Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence and The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel, The Commitment: Love, Sex, Marriage, and My Family by Dan Savage, and Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships by Christopher Ryan

Treating Couples Well

Author: David C. Treadway
Publisher: Routledge
ISBN: 135184783X
Size: 31.15 MB
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Treating Couples Well shows clinicians how to create a collaborative approach to couple therapy, which will empower couples to take charge of their own treatment. Written in an engaging and conversational style, the book carefully explains how to help couples choose between a variety of clinical approaches and offers effective treatment strategies for a wide range of issues, including infidelity, intimacy and sexuality, communication, mental illness, and addiction. Chapters also explore the importance of considering the therapist’s own life experience and its impact on working with couples. Practical interventions, clinical vignettes, and homework exercises are included throughout to help therapists to successfully support the needs of each couple and to encourage meaningful work between sessions. Drawing on a plethora of case examples from the career of a leading couple therapist, Treating Couples Well will be a valuable resource to couple and marriage and family therapists at all levels.

Idiot

Author: Laura Clery
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 1982101962
Size: 54.83 MB
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From YouTube star and Facebook Video sensation Laura Clery comes a collection of comedic essays in the vein of We Are Never Meeting in Real Life by Samantha Irby and You’ll Grow Out of It by Jessi Klein. Laura Clery makes a living by sharing inappropriate comedy sketches with millions of strangers on the Internet. She writes songs about her anatomy, talks trash about her one-eyed rescue pug, and sexually harasses her husband, Stephen. And it pays the bills! Now, in her first-ever book, Laura recounts how she went from being a dangerously impulsive, broke, unemployable, suicidal, cocaine-addicted narcissist, crippled by fear and hopping from one toxic romance to the next…to a more-happy-than-not, somewhat rational, meditating, vegan yogi with good credit, a great marriage, a fantastic career, and four unfortunate-looking rescue animals. Still, above all, Laura remains an amazingly talented, adorable, and vulnerable, self-described…Idiot. With her signature brand of offbeat, no-holds-barred humor, Idiot introduces you to a wildly original—and undeniably relatable—new voice.

Polyamory In The 21st Century

Author: Deborah Anapol
Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield Publishers
ISBN: 9781442200234
Size: 12.52 MB
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Unlike other books on this topic, Polyamory in the 21st Century weaves together research and facts to provide an informed and impartial analysis of polyamory as a lifestyle and as a movement, and to place it in a psychosocial as well as an historical context. Anecdotes and personal experiences allow the reader to develop a better understanding of polyamory and the people who practice and enjoy it. Anapol addresses the practical, the utopian, and the shadow sides of this intriguing, mysterious, yet often threatening lifestyle. It honestly addresses difficult issues such as the nature of commitment without exclusivity, balancing personal needs with loyalty to a partner, evaluating beliefs about love and relationship, the impact of polyamory on children, and the challenges that arise when one partner wants monogamy and another prefers polyamory. Without judgement, she explores this increasingly common practice, and reveals the true nature of a lifestyle that many do not understand.

Moody Bitches

Author: Julie Holland
Publisher: Penguin
ISBN: 069813642X
Size: 68.90 MB
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A groundbreaking guide for women of all ages that shows women’s inherent moodiness is a strength, not a weakness As women, we learn from an early age that our moods are a problem. Bitches are moody. To succeed in life, we are told, we must have it all under control. We have to tamp down our inherent shifts in favor of a more static way of being. But our bodies are wiser than we imagine. Moods are not an annoyance to be stuffed away. They are a finely-tuned feedback system that, if heeded, can tell us how best to manage our lives. Our changing moods let us know when our bodies are primed to tackle different challenges and when we should be alert to developing problems. They help us select the right tool for each of our many jobs. If we deny our emotionality, we deny the breadth of our talents. With the right care of our inherently dynamic bodies, we can master our moods to avail ourselves of this great natural strength. Yet millions of American women are medicating away their emotions because our culture says that moodiness is a problem to be fixed. One in four of us takes a psychiatric drug. If you add sleeping pills to the mix, the statistics become considerably higher. Over-prescribed medications can have devastating consequences for women in many areas of our lives: sex, relationships, sleep, eating, focus, balance, and aging. And even if we don’t pop a pill, women everywhere are numbing their emotions with food, alcohol, and a host of addictive behaviors that deny the wisdom of our bodies and keep us from addressing the real issues that we face. Dr. Julie Holland knows there is a better way. She’s been sharing her frank and funny wisdom with her patients for years, and in Moody Bitches Dr. Holland offers readers a guide to our bodies and our moodiness that includes insider information about the pros and cons of the drugs we’re being offered, the direct link between food and mood, an honest discussion about sex, practical exercise and sleep strategies, as well as some surprising and highly effective natural therapies that can help us press the reset button on our own bodies and minds. In the tradition of Our Bodies, Our Selves, this groundbreaking guide for women of all ages will forge a much needed new path in women’s health—and offer women invaluable information on how to live better, and be more balanced, at every stage of life.

Sync Your Relationship Save Your Marriage

Author: Peter Fraenkel, Ph.D.
Publisher: St. Martin's Press
ISBN: 0230115667
Size: 29.25 MB
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Award-winning couples therapist Peter Fraenkel argues that most relationship problems can be traced to partners being out of sync on the powerful but mostly hidden dimension of time. Differences in daily rhythms, personal pace, punctuality, time perspective, and priorities about how time is allocated can all lead to couple conflict. Yet the fascinating fact is that these polarizing time differences play a potent role in attracting lovers in the first place. In this trailblazing new book, he draws on his original research to show how a clearer understanding of these forces can improve the health of your relationship and even rescue a failing one.