Out Of The Doghouse

Author: Robert Weiss
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 075731922X
Size: 40.72 MB
Format: PDF, Mobi
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It's all about cheating--the biggest threat to intimacy. Typically, men are good at creating rifts in relationships but terrible at mending them, especially after they've repeatedly betrayed their partner through sexual infidelity. For the most part, cheating men are both intimacy-challenged and empathy-challenged, and, as such, they lack the skills needed to overcome the damage wrought by their infidelity. Robert Weiss has spent over twenty years in the treatment of sex and intimacy issues. He's helped both cheating men and their betrayed spouses move through the horrors of infidelity. In Out of the Doghouse he shares his expertise, illuminating the ways in which men can move beyond their usual feeble efforts to smooth things over. Saying "I'm sorry" and trying to "buy forgiveness" with flowers and jewelry may temporarily calm the stormy seas of infidelity. However, these actions do nothing to re-establish intimacy and trust—the key components to help the distraught woman feel better about her relationship over the long-term and get over the cheating. The simple truth is men and women are very different when it comes to intimacy and relationships. While men are able to compartmentalize things like sexual infidelity, women typically view cheating as an affront to their entire relationship. They think, "If he is lying to me about sex, he's probably lying to me about everything." For betrayed women, trust just flat-out disintegrates. And without proper guidance, men have little hope of restoring it. Weiss provides exactly the needed guidance in Out of the Doghouse, helping men move past the usual infidelity roadblocks that result from cheating in ways that will not only save a damaged relationship, but restore intimacy to make it better than ever.

Out Of The Doghouse For Christian Men

Author: Robert Weiss
Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform
ISBN: 9781985135123
Size: 20.36 MB
Format: PDF, ePub
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Christian men aren't immune from the decimating plague of infidelity. Yet underneath the hurt and betrayal, often there is still love. Without proper guidance, though, men have little chance of restoring relationship trust. In fact, they often make things worse. Robert Weiss, a nationally acclaimed secular expert in the treatment of sex and intimacy issues, provided a practical, effective guide for recovery after infidelity in his original version of Out of the Doghouse. He then invited colleague Marnie C. Ferree, an equally acclaimed expert within the Christian community, to adapt the book for a faith-based audience. The result is a perfect marriage between Weiss' concrete relationship-saving steps and Ferree's incorporation of a Christian perspective. Ferree brings familiar faith values and scripture to deepen the discussion of taking responsibility, rebuilding trust, and restoring intimacy. Out of the Doghouse for Christian Men provides a path of redemption for the men who cheat and a possibility of healing for the women they hurt. Not only can relationships be saved, they can emerge from the doghouse stronger than ever. "Marnie Ferree is trustworthy. Without judgment, she writes with personal experience and practical solutions. Marnie has helped many a struggler regain integrity, re-earn trust, and restore a relationship never thought possible. You'll be blessed to read this book!" June Hunt, Founder and CSO (Chief Servant Officer) of Hope For The Heart Author, How to Forgive... When You Don't Feel Like It "Can a relationship be resolved after infidelity? Some of the most troubled and broken relationships that I thought had little or no hope of surviving, I have seen redeemed and made beautiful by God's healing grace and power. Is it tough? Sure. Possible? Absolutely. [This book] shows a redemptive way forward." Dr. Tim Clinton, Ed.D., LPC, LMFT President of the American Association of Christian Counselors

Sex Addiction

Author: Paula Hall
Publisher: Routledge
ISBN: 1351259970
Size: 61.56 MB
Format: PDF, Docs
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Sex Addiction: A Guide for Couples and Those Who Help Them is a practical book that provides empathic support, guidance, information and pragmatic strategies for couples who want to survive sex and porn addiction - whether that’s together, or apart. Sex and porn addiction devastates couple relationships, and unlike the impact of infidelity, there is no ‘before’ to get back to and no ‘after’. This book adopts the metaphor of a boat, presenting addiction as the tidal wave that devastates the relation-ship, leaving both crew members fighting for survival. There’s guidance to ensure each partner makes it safely back to shore and advice on surveying the damage to your relation-ship and deciding if you want to save it and set sail again. You’ll find practical advice for both the partner and the addicted partner, including first-hand accounts of couples that have already undertaken the journey. There are exercises to do alone, and many to share together, to help you understand what’s happened, consider your future, and if you choose to stay together, begin the task of rebuilding trust and intimacy. Sex Addiction is not only a practical guide for couples, but also for the therapists who support them. This book will be a companion to Paula Hall’s previous books on sex addiction and builds on the already known frameworks and models used, but it is also written to stand alone.

Healing Sexually Betrayed Men And Boys

Author: Richard B. Gartner
Publisher: Routledge
ISBN: 1317375513
Size: 45.43 MB
Format: PDF, Kindle
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Healing Sexually Betrayed Men and Boys: Treatment for Sexual Abuse, Assault, and Trauma is the new authoritative source for treatment of sexually victimized men and boys. Male victims and survivors of sexual trauma lived in shadow until the turn of the 21st century, when scandal after scandal about the sexual abuse of boys and men shed light on their suffering. These men and boys require different treatment roadmaps than their female counterparts. Yet there is little in the professional literature to help a clinician work with sexually traumatized boys and men. Richard B. Gartner is a seasoned psychologist/psychoanalyst who has worked therapeutically with sexually abused men for over three decades. He is a clinician, advocate, teacher, lecturer, and nationally and internationally recognized expert on the subject. Dr. Gartner’s classic book, Betrayed as Boys: Psychodynamic Treatment of Sexually Abused Men, is one of the few written to guide clinicians. Now, nearly two decades after writing that groundbreaking volume, he follows up on his earlier work. Healing Sexually Abused Men and Boys, together with its companion volume, Understanding the Sexual Betrayal of Boys and Men, is a thorough, comprehensive guide to learning about and healing male victims and survivors. Dr. Gartner has invited a group of experts to write about specific problems faced by these boys and men. Specialists from the psychoanalytic, psychodynamic, trauma, and legal worlds fill in the details about a wide range of interconnected subjects related to the complex reverberations of male sexual trauma. Healing Sexually Betrayed Men and Boys covers such diverse topics as: therapy with young sexually traumatized boys; the aftermath for men who were raped as adults ; covert seduction of boys and its aftereffects; treatment for substance addictions and sexual compulsions; couples work with male survivors and their partners or spouses; bodywork with male survivors; treatment for male veterans who suffered sexual trauma in the military; profiling sexual predators and working with survivors who have also been sexual predators. This book is a valuable resource for clinicians at every level of training. With strategies for how survivors can build support networks and descriptions of clinical, familial, and community-based treatments, Healing Sexually Betrayed Men and Boys is essential reading for clinicians of all theoretical persuasions who work with male sexual abuse survivors. Filling in gaps in the relatively scant literature on the subject, it will also help sexually abused or assaulted men themselves understand what is available to them.

Understanding And Treating Sex And Pornography Addiction

Author: Paula Hall
Publisher: Routledge
ISBN: 1351112619
Size: 54.21 MB
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Understanding and Treating Sex and Pornography Addiction demonstrates why people’s lives are being destroyed by compulsive sexual behaviour and what we can do to help them. The book examines the latest research into these conditions and outlines the new integrative C.H.O.I.C.E. Recovery Model, a practical, sex-positive model which incorporates CBT, ACT and psychodynamic theories to help people enjoy lifetime recovery. This new edition has been updated throughout, with new material covering pornography addiction, ChemSex, internet offending and female sex and love addiction. Written in a clear and informative manner, this book contains support and advice for both the clinician and for those who suffer from sex addiction, and provides tools for securing confident and rewarding recovery. Understanding and Treating Sex and Pornography Addiction is essential reading for anyone looking to make an enduring recovery from these conditions, as well as for clinicians new to the field and those wanting to update their skills and knowledge.