Raising Resilient Children With A Borderline Or Narcissistic Parent

Author: Margalis Fjelstad
Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield
ISBN: 1538127644
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Being partnered with a narcissist or borderline personality can be hard enough, but learning how to shield children from the fallout is paramount. Here, the authors show readers how to manage parenting when a narcissistic or borderline partner is part of the equation. Life in a narcissistic family system is at best challenging, and too often filled with chaos, isolation, emotional outbursts, and rigid controlling behaviors. It is too often devoid of peace and emotional safety. In the worst outcomes, children in these families grow up with low self-worth, issues with trust and belonging, and a lack of self-compassion. They are at significant risk of carrying the cycle forward and having poor adult relationships. This book offers a way to intervene and disrupt the cycle of negative outcomes for children. Written by two family therapists who bring a combined total of sixty years of clinical practice with individuals and families, the book pulls no punches, giving clear-headed advice, easy to follow actions to help children, and an abundance of teaching examples. Instead of the doom and gloom scenarios often presented about life with a narcissist or borderline, this book provides a much more positive outlook, and most importantly, it offers hope and a path to an entirely different outcome for the family members. Supported by current research in neuroscience, mindfulness and parenting information, the book focuses on teaching resilience and self-compassion to raise emotionally healthy children, even in a narcissistic family system. It starts by helping parents get a clear understanding of what they face with a narcissistic or borderline partner. There is no room here for denial, but there are also many options to explore. It explains how and why the narcissistic family system functions so poorly for raising healthy children, and pinpoints the deficits while providing information on how to intervene more effectively for the benefit of the children. Using their years of experience, the authors present ideas for staying together as well as knowing when to leave the relationship and how best to do that. Emphasis throughout the book is on supporting and strengthening the reader with encouragement, concrete ideas, skills and compassionate understanding.

The Parents Guide To Psychological First Aid

Author: Gerald Koocher
Publisher: Oxford University Press
ISBN: 0199700486
Size: 52.81 MB
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Does your young daughter talk endlessly about invisible friends, dragons in the basement, and monsters in the closet? Is your teenager about to start high school or being victimized by bullies? Is your son mortally afraid of certain insects or of injections at the doctor's office? Compiled by two seasoned clinical psychologists, The Parents' Guide to Psychological First Aid brings together articles by recognized experts who provide you with the information you need to help your child navigate the many trying problems that typically afflict young people. Written in an engaging style, this book offers sage advice on a raft of everyday problems that have psychological solutions. The contributors cover such topics as body image and physical appearance; cigarettes, drugs, and alcohol; overeating and obesity; dental visits; the birth of a sibling and sibling rivalries; temper tantrums; fostering self-esteem; shyness and social anxiety; and much more. Each expert article provides an overview of the issues, offers reassurance for minor problems and strategies for crisis management, and discusses the red flags that indicate that professional help is needed. In addition, the book is organized into various categories to make it easier to find information. For instance, the "Family Issues" section includes articles on Blended Families, Divorce, and Traveling; the "Adolescent Issues" section covers such topics as Dating and Driving; and the "Social/Peer Issues" section explores such subjects as "Sportsmanship," "Homesickness," and "Making Friends." An encyclopedic reference for parents concerned with maintaining the mental health of their children, this indispensable volume will help you help your child to deal effectively with stress and pressure, to cope with everyday challenges, and to rebound from disappointments, mistakes, trauma, and adversity.

From Diapers To Dating

Author: Debra W. Haffner
Publisher: ReadHowYouWant.com
ISBN: 1458758729
Size: 67.68 MB
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A leading educator's warm, practical, step-by-step program for helping parents provide accurate information and communicate their own values to their children. Synopsis Approved by Parents' Choice 1999, praised in Time, Newsweek, and Library Journal Whether she is discussing how to help kids deal with the onslaught of sexual messages they see in the media or providing sensible guidance on teaching the facts of life, Debra Haffner's values-oriented approach to raising sexually healthy children is informative and comforting. Organized from birth through age twelve, her acclaimed book presents a wealth of practical techniques to help parents identify and communicate the appropriate information to give to children of different ages. Each chapter includes: Values exercises: Questions to help parents sort out their own values about sexuality and decide what they want to teach their children. What to expect and how to prepare: Lively discussions on each stage of a child's life, filled with relevant information, sparkling anecdotes, and sample conversations. Teachable moments: How to find and use opportunities throughout a child's life to bring up specific issues of sexuality instead of waiting to have that ''big talk.'' Dozens of age-appropriate questions and answers are included. In addition, Haffner covers special issues, including sexual harassment in school, questions that may arise when divorced parents begin to date, and how to evaluate sexuality education outside the home. Accessible and comprehensive, From Diapers to Dating also contains extensive resources for more information, including Web sites, hotlines, health facilities, pertinent organizations, and much more. It is a must-read for every parent who wishes to lay a solid foundation for their children's adult lives.

Ex Etiquette For Parents

Author: Jann Blackstone-Ford
Publisher: Chicago Review Press
ISBN: 1569762260
Size: 21.30 MB
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Written for both biological parents and stepparents, this helpful guide provides the tools necessary to raising well-adjusted children after a stressful divorce. Innovative in its technique and cowritten by a certified divorce and stepfamily expert and her own stepchildren's mother, this etiquette book provides an authentic guide for ex-spouses to interact on a civil and healthy level. Sample conversation for everyday scenarios help exes create a positive environment and ensure the mental and physical well-being of the children. Whether it's coordinating discipline between households, introducing a new partner, dealing with late child support payments, or providing a regular schedule for children, this guide empowers parents to change what they can--their attitudes and communication skills. In doing so, divorced parents can increase their self-esteem and personal growth and emerge confident that they can handle awkward situations and powerful emotions while keeping the children's best interests a priority.

Help Your Children Cope With Your Divorce

Author: Paula Hall
Publisher: Random House
ISBN: 1446489558
Size: 63.34 MB
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Children of all ages can be devastated by the news that their parents are splitting up. Even those who have been living in a highly conflictual situation are often shocked by their parents' final decision to separate. For most children, separation means major changes to family life and often losing a parent. The long-term impacts of divorce are now widely recognised with increasing chances of problems at school, criminal behaviour, problems in their own relationships and mental illness. This guide will provide you with clear advice and guidance on how to minimise the impact of your relationship breakdown on your children. Including: - An explanation of the age-specific issues that children face when they find out their family is breaking up - Professional comment, stories and quotes from children - Checklists and case studies Acknowledging the personal difficulties faced by the adult who has made the decision to leave, as well as the adult who feels they are being abandoned, this sensitive, accessible guide is a must for all parents going through divorce or separation who are concerned for their children.

Healthy Divorce

Author: Lois Gold M.S.W.
Publisher: Sourcebooks, Inc.
ISBN: 1402250622
Size: 13.33 MB
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The Healthy Divorce empowers couples to negotiate, handle sensitive issues, and resolve conflicts in a way that allows them to emerge from divorce with their emotional well-being intact.

Divorcing With Dignity

Author: Elise I. Guari
Publisher: Trafford Publishing
ISBN: 1490741437
Size: 52.97 MB
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This book is intended to support parents who are experiencing divorce. It is intended to be a reminder that children need to be supported and protected during this experience in their lives. I hope to provide people who are divorcing with some gentle reminders and some level of comfort that they are not alone during this difficult time and that you can do it with dignity.

Making Divorce Easier On Your Child 50 Effective Ways To Help Children Adjust

Author: Nicholas Long
Publisher: McGraw Hill Professional
ISBN: 9780071403252
Size: 24.37 MB
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From the bestselling authors of Parenting the Strong-Willed Child, expert strategies and action steps for divorcing parents While there are many trade books on children and divorce, most tend to be filled with extensive discussions of the psychological impact on children, with little effective advice. You want immediate answers and quick access to expert strategies you can use to help your kids today and in the future. Making Divorce Easier on Your Child arms you with 50 effective strategies and action steps for helping your kids cope with divorce, packaged in a convenient, quick-bite format. It is based on the authors' years of clinical experience dealing with the children of divorce, as well as their extensive research into the causes and cures of divorce-related emotional problems. "Informative and sensible, offering realistic, clear-cut recommendations." Robert Brooks, Ph.D., Faculty, Harvard Medical School, and coauthor of Raising Resilient Children