Whatever Happened To Daddy S Little Girl

Author: Jonetta Rose Barras
Publisher: One World
ISBN: 9780345444400
Size: 26.50 MB
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What happens to a little girl who grows up without a father? Can she ever feel truly loved and fully alive? Does she ever heal—or is she doomed to live a wounded, fragmented life and to pass her wounds down to her own children? Fatherlessness afflicts nearly half the households in America, and it has reached epidemic proportions in the African-American community, with especially devastating consequences for black women. In this powerful, searingly intimate book, accomplished journalist, poet, and fiction writer Jonetta Rose Barras breaks the code of silence and gives voice to the experiences of America's fatherless women—starting with herself. "We are legions—a choir of wounded—listen to the dirge we sing," writes Barras of the millions of black women like her who lost, either through abandonment, rejection, poverty, or death, the men who gave them life. A father is the first man in a girl's life—the first man to look in her eyes, protect her, care for her, love her unconditionally. Fathers fashion their daughters as expertly and as powerfully as they do their sons. When a girl loses this man, she grows up with an ache that nothing else can soothe. Psychologists have found that fatherless daughters are far more likely to suffer from debilitating rage, depression, abuse, and addictions; they tend to seek "sexual healing" through promiscuity or anti-intimate behavior and end up fearing or despising the men whose love they crave. Barras knows from personal experience the traps and the fury of being a black fatherless daughter, and she makes her own life story the heart and soul of her book, alternating chapters of spellbinding memoir with the stories she has gathered from women all over the country. Passionate and shockingly frank, Whatever Happened to Daddy's Little Girl is the first book to explore the plight of America's fatherless daughters from the unique perspective of the African-American community. Like Hope Edelman's New York Times bestseller Motherless Daughters, this brilliant volume gives all fatherless daughters the knowledge that they are not alone and the courage to overcome the hidden pain they have suffered for so long.


Author: Jonetta Rose Barras
Publisher: Bancroft Press
ISBN: 9781890862862
Size: 16.79 MB
Format: PDF, ePub
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In her critically acclaimed, groundbreaking bestseller Whatever Happened to Daddy's Little Girl? author Jonetta Rose Barras broke the code of silence surrounding the devastating impact father absence has on girls and women. Using her own story, and that of other women from across the country, Barras identified the "fatherless woman syndrome," along with its ramifications, and offered remedies for healing.In this new self-help book: Bridges: Reuniting Daughters & Daddies, Barras takes the next step, guiding daughter-and-father duos toward much needed reconciliation, bonding, and healing. With illustrations pulled from the lives of real women and their fathers, plus affirmations and practical exercises designed by the author in association with experts, Bridges will be a must read and invaluable tool for girls and women who want to mend the rend in their lives, for men who want to enjoy the special and sacred relationship between fathers and daughters, and for everyone interested in the love that binds us all.

Black Women And Popular Culture

Author: Adria Y. Goldman
Publisher: Lexington Books
ISBN: 0739192299
Size: 10.74 MB
Format: PDF
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With the emergence of popular culture phenomena such as reality television, blogging, and social networking sites, it is important to examine the representation of Black women and the potential implications of those images, messages, and roles. Black Women and Popular Culture: The Conversation Continues provides such a comprehensive analysis. Using an array of theoretical frameworks and methodologies, this collection features cutting edge research from scholars interested in the relationship among media, society, perceptions, and Black women. The uniqueness of this book is that it serves as a compilation of “hot topics” including ABC’s Scandal, Beyoncé’s Visual Album, and Oprah’s Instagram page. Other themes have roots in reality television, film, and hip hop, as well as issues of gender politics, domestic violence, and colorism. The discussion also extends to the presentation and inclusion of Black women in advertising, print, and digital media.

Black Fathers

Author: Michael E. Connor
Publisher: Routledge
ISBN: 1136735364
Size: 73.62 MB
Format: PDF, Docs
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This book offers a broader, more positive picture of African American fathers. Featuring case studies of African-descended fathers, this edited volume brings to life the achievements and challenges of being a black father in America. Leading scholars and practitioners provide unique insight into this understudied population. Short-sighted social policies which do not encourage father involvement are critically examined and the value of father engagement is promoted. The problems associated with the absence of a father are also explored. The second edition features an increased emphasis on: the historical issues confronting African descended fathers the impact of health issues on Black fathers and their children the need for therapeutic interventions to aid in the healing of fathers and their children the impact of an Afrikan-centered fathering approach and the need for research which considers systemic problems confronting African American fathers community focused models that provide new ideas for (re)connecting absent fathers learning tools including reflective questions and a conclusion in each chapter and more theory and research throughout the book. Part I provides a historical overview of African descended fathers including their strengths and shortcomings over the years. Next, contributors share their personal stories including one from a communal father working with underserved youth and two others that highlight the impact of absent fathers. Then, the research on father-daughter relationships is examined including the impact of father absence on daughters and on gender identity. This section concludes with a discussion of serving adolescents in the foster care system. Part II focuses on the importance of a two-parent home, communal fathering, and equalitarian households. Cultural implications and barriers to relationships are also explored. This section concludes with a discussion of the struggles Black men face with role definitions. The book concludes with a discussion of the impact of adoption and health issues on Black fathers and their children, and the need for more effective therapeutic interventions that include a perspective centered in the traditions and cultures of Afrika in learning to become a father. The final chapter offers an intervention model to aid in fatherhood. An ideal supplementary text for courses on fathers and fathering, introduction to the family, parenting, African American families/men, men and masculinity, Black studies, race and ethnic relations, and family issues taught in a variety of departments, the book also appeals to social service providers, policy makers, and clergy who work with community institutions.

Fatherless Daughters

Author: Pamela Thomas
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 1982103264
Size: 17.78 MB
Format: PDF, Mobi
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A moving, elegantly written, and exhaustively researched account of what it means for a girl to lose a father to death or divorce—with advice for fatherless daughters on how to cope. “People who lose their parents early in life are like fellow war veterans. As soon as they discover that they are talking to someone else who has lost a parent, they know they are speaking the same language without uttering a word.” Pamela Thomas gives voice to this unspoken pain in Fatherless Daughters. Still haunted by her own father’s death when she was ten, Thomas decided to explore its effects. Though her journey began as a personal one, she soon felt the need to hear from other women and ended up interviewing more than one hundred fatherless women. They ranged in age from nineteen to ninety-four; they came from all areas of the country as well as Europe and Asia; some had lost their fathers to death, others to divorce or abandonment. Each account was unique, but the impact of a father’s loss was profound in every woman’s life. Thomas begins by defining what it means to be a father in our world. She discusses the initial shock of his loss, exploring the aspects that color how a young girl experiences it: her age at the time of her father’s death or abandonment, her mother’s behavior and attitudes, her place in the family vis-à-vis siblings, and the influence of a stepfather or father-surrogates. Thomas shows how a father’s early death or abandonment affects a woman’s emotional health and self-esteem, her body image, her sexual experiences, her marriage, her family life, and her career. Perhaps most important, Thomas offers compassionate advice for coming to terms with father loss, even late in life, from actively mourning, to healing, to starting fresh.

The Myth Of The Missing Black Father

Author: Roberta Coles
Publisher: Columbia University Press
ISBN: 0231520867
Size: 22.61 MB
Format: PDF
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Common stereotypes portray black fathers as being largely absent from their families. Yet while black fathers are less likely than white and Hispanic fathers to marry their child's mother, many continue to parent through cohabitation and visitation, providing caretaking, financial, and other in-kind support. This volume captures the meaning and practice of black fatherhood in its many manifestations, exploring two-parent families, cohabitation, single custodial fathering, stepfathering, noncustodial visitation, and parenting by extended family members and friends. Contributors examine ways that black men perceive and decipher their parenting responsibilities, paying careful attention to psychosocial, economic, and political factors that affect the ability to parent. Chapters compare the diversity of African American fatherhood with negative portrayals in politics, academia, and literature and, through qualitative analysis and original profiles, illustrate the struggle and intent of many black fathers to be responsible caregivers. This collection also includes interviews with daughters of absent fathers and concludes with the effects of certain policy decisions on responsible parenting.

Black Fatherhood Ii

Author: Earl Ofari Hutchinson
Size: 39.65 MB
Format: PDF, ePub, Mobi
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Discusses relationships between men and women within the African American community, focusing on father-daughter experiences

101 Ways Black Women Can Learn To Love Themselves

Author: Jamie Walker
Publisher: Xlibris Corporation
Size: 23.71 MB
Format: PDF, ePub, Mobi
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Heart and Soul magazine 101 Ways is like talking to your sister when she´s got all the right answers. Black Issues Book Review An ambitious...guide to personal growth and fulfillment through the practice of loving one´s self. Walker touches upon topics as diverse as respecting your elders and loving your hair, devoting each chapter to a single principle. Walker often seems to be thinking out loud, as if she´s writing a journal entry or letter to a close friend...The very completion of this 101-chapter volume is no small feat and should serve as an inspiration to aspiring writers. Midwest Book Review An impressively practical self-help guide written especially to aid black women to get in touch with their spiritual side, experience a zest for life, and achieve a personal liberation. Walker articulately and persuasively takes the position that true healing does not come overnight, but rather it gradually evolves over time, once we learn not to look outward for validation and approval, and only when we embrace the love of God. 101 Ways Black Women Can Learn To Love Themselves is definitely recommended as being an unusually powerful, emotionally charged, and uplifting personal improvement and self-help guide. Kanika A. Wade, The Rawsistaz Book Reviewers As a black woman on her own personal journey, I found this book to be powerful, very emotional, and moving to read. I felt that the author at times was speaking directly to me, providing the encouragement and strength that I need as I move forward into new horizons. Jamie Walker offers a book that with an open heart, many can and will find healing. As a young black woman, I am thankful that Ms. Walker heeded the call and wrote a book that all black women, regardless of age should read. Venus Noble Jamie Walker is insightful and wise way beyond her years. A page turner would not describe the inability to put this book down! There is wit and humor in every single passage! No Black woman´s bookshelf should be without this manual of self worth and respect. Though apparently geared toward Black women, it is useful for any woman who will open her mind to learning about herself and growing. Social Worker/Activist; Oakland, California Joy Parham, Assistant to the Librarian; UC Merced I believe this is a necessary and encouraging message Jamie is sending out to Black women, especially our young Black women. Most of us didn´t tap into our inner selves until we had experienced numerous trials and tribulations in life. We didn´t see the value in the valley. This is definitely a book I will add to my collection. Esther Cooper Jackson, co-founder of Freedomways magazine An excellent resource! Columbus Metropolitan Main Library (representing ten branches) A Must Read! BOOK SUMMARY Self-love is the only kind of love that can every truly heal and rescue us, causing us to be more open in all of our other relationships, activities, and endeavors. 101 Ways Black Women Can Learn to Love Themselves this book is about self-actualization, the power of sisterhood, the healing power of sharing our own stories, and the beauty o